"Married couples have better sex"

The Church of England has been quoted in the Press as saying that married couples have better sex and more of it. They even use the word spectacular. Wow - that's worth having an early night for!

The media have shown an interest -especially because they are recognising that the Church supports 'the physical side of marriage'. This made me chuckle...who's idea do they think it was in the first place?

Apparently there are lots of excellent books on the subject but the message coming through the most strongly is that commitment, taking time to please each other, and being in a long-term, exclusive union are all factors that contribute to deeper intimacy.

The wedding Service uses the fabulous word CHERISH and I think that word encompasses all those things.So when the hustle and bustle of the big day is over let's not consider it an anti-climax...when it can be quite the reverse with a bit of thought and effort.

Now is the time to slow down and get to know each other emotionally and intimately. Making love is a 24 hour thing and putting one another's feelings and needs first is part of investing in your relationship. This is one area where your equity and interest are guaranteed.

I've just been watching a Christian film called the Adam & Eve Factor which was made many years ago by some friends of mine. It is very tastefully done and subtle but they make the point in one section that often problems that are presented as sexual problems are caused by other issues - such as anger or resentment.That's why the Bible gives really good advice like "Never let the sun go down on your anger".

So let's keep on loving, being intimate and having spectacular sex. It's a natural part of being married and it was God's idea so it must be right!