Church wedding 'eligibility'

My partner & I would like to get married in church due to our beliefs about marriage & what this signifies. However, whilst we were both connected with the church when we were younger - neither of us have been regular church goers.

I understand that we would be 'entitled' to get married in a church in our parish but we are moving to a new area and the church in that parish is very modern & we would prefer to be part of a more traditional church.

There is a church 2 miles away but just outside the parish which we would like to approach, possibly with a view to joining the congregation as marriage has raised questions about what we believe maybe this is a good opportunity to be involved again.

Unfortunately though I was really hurt and affected by a conversation I had with the vicar (in the town where I work) who, without questioning my reasons for wanting a church wedding said 'I don't know whether you regularly worship but marriage is not just about an hour and a half service in church on a Saturday morning'.

I am fully aware of this and believe that marriage is for life, I would not consider marriage if I didn't think that would be the case - I left that day feeling utterly rejected and like a child who had asked a silly question (I am 33 by the way!). So, now I am too scared to approach the vicar of the church we would like to attend and we would like to get married in next year for fear that he too will 'reject' us based on where we live etc.

This has made me question whether someones faith and beliefs are judged on the number of times they physically set foot inside a church - whilst I do not attend regularly I will always go into a church if I pass one just to sit quietly and think.

Please can you give me your thoughts on this as I really don't know where to go from here.

Thank you.