Hi

My partner and myself are looking at getting married in Falmouth Cornwall, but we have hit a snag in our plans to do so.

The story starts with my mum who already lives in Falmouth and is not only a regular church attendent but is also a church secretary, but this is our only link to a parish in Falmouth or Cornwall which wouldnt be a problem if the vicar in my mums church would marry us. This is where the problems start, the vicar will not marry us as we are both divorced which i have to add when we where both young and both our divorces where not down to us.

So we decieded that we would contact the church in the next parish from where my mum lives, but after serveral times and 8 weeks trying to contact the vicar we had still not heard anything and then we heard from the church secretary telling us that the vicar had asked her to get in contact with us telling us his desicion.

He told us that he couldnt marry us because one of the requisites for a church wedding of previously married couples is the couple's regular attendance at the church at which they wish to be married. In your present circumstances, this would probably not be a realistic proposition.

The way I read it though as long as you are a in regular attendance in the church that is in your parish then you can marry in any other church as long as we have a link to that church although we havent got the link because of the problem of not being able to marry in my mums parish

Is there anyway that we will be able to marry in another church in a nearby parish which we have no link to and will accept us seeing that we are both divorced, is there anyway of writing to the Diocese of Truro or anyone else. Because we have been married before we want to make this special and to be married in a church would make it very special

Many thanks I hope to hear from you soon

Regards

Rob Shooter