Getting married in a church after divorce
Hi.
I've been with my partner for ten years and we have a two year old son.
We get married on the 12th June next year. At a venue thtat I really don't want to get married at. I've always wanted to marry in church, it's important to me and although I don't attend church on a regular basis doesn't mean I don't have beliefs.
The problem is my partner is divorced, now, I spoke to a local vicar and he said that this may not be a problem depending on the circumstances. BUT my partner is divorced on the grounds of adultery. He didn't commit adultery, we met 3 weeks after his seperation from his wife and have been together ever since. He wasn't divorced or even started the process of divorce when I met him (like I said they had just been apart for 3 weeks).
Does this count as adultery??
His ex wife asked him whether he would mind if she divorced him on the grounds of adultery as it made the divorce quicker (and some other reason that I can't remember) He said that this was ok and we never thought of the consequences.
Do you think it would be possible to marry in a church due to the above reasons?
Many thanks
Comments
With few local exceptions, until 1545, Christian marriages in Europe were by mutual consent, declaration of intention to marry and upon the subsequent physical union of the parties.The couple would promise verbally to each other that they would be married to each other; the presence of a priest or witnesses was not required.jordan kicks
Dear Ladybird
Legally you are allowed to marry after divorce but it has been left to the minister to decide,
Some say a blanket "No", others make a judgement depending on circumstances. I've got to be honest that it looks on paper as if you split them up - so you'll need to talk this through.
The one thing in your favour is that after 10 years you have demonstrated your commitment to each other - so make sure you state all the facts.
Hope you can resolve this happily
warm regards
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk