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Hi
I can understand your concerns and suggest that you ask the Vicar to pencil in your date in order to keep the time slot free and then ink it in when you've attended for 6 months.
The other option is that there are other churches in which you can marry without the 6 months wait -a church in which you have a link (where your mum or granny married, or where you were baptised and/or confirmed). You'd qualify under the new marriage measure for this, which came into force at the end of October last year.
I've written about it on this site so you can check other posts or simply google it to get the full information.
Hope this helps - just to explain that the rules are set by parliament and not the Church, so try not to fall out with us :-)
Kind regards
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Dear Ladybird
Legally you are allowed to marry after divorce but it has been left to the minister to decide,
Some say a blanket "No", others make a judgement depending on circumstances. I've got to be honest that it looks on paper as if you split them up - so you'll need to talk this through.
The one thing in your favour is that after 10 years you have demonstrated your commitment to each other - so make sure you state all the facts.
Hope you can resolve this happily
warm regards
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Hi
You do need to have banns read in the parish where you currently reside - though you can have them read in your parents church as well if you wish.
The minister needs the signed certificate in order to proceed with the wedding. These are not church rules but they are set by Parliament. Hope this helps
kind regards
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Haven't told the Vicar...
Oh dear Jayneeloulou.
I can understand your reasoning but you really need to be truthful honey!
There are two issues here. One is that a Vicar officiating really needs to have sight of your decree absolute before the service. This is a legal thing and you'll cause the Vicar problems if he or she takes the service without being assured that you are actually divorced.
The other thing is that you are expressing a desire to be part of that community and any relationship that starts with a lie is an unhealthy one. If you had not been truthful to each other about previous relationships and then found out later that you were divorced it would be a shock.
Please tell the Vicar and apologise as soon as possible. Explain your fears and I'm sure it will be understood - better to be honest.
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Good News Mrs H2b
As long as your future father-in-law has lived there for longer than 6 months then you qualify to marry there.
kind regards
Jan
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Hi
I'm not sure why you are finding it difficult. And you've not really given me much information. But If you approach a church that you have been linked with in the past - if you were baptised there or lived in the parish (whether you attended church or not) or where either parents or grandparents married then you should have no difficulty at all.
Kind regards
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Hi Amy
They'll need to be read where you live at the time of application and at the place where the wedding takes place. They only need to be read within the three months prior to the wedding so you can check this out nearer the time. Your Vicar will advise you.
Kind regards
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Everyone wants to keep memories of their wedding day in the form of photographs and if that is disallowed then its like being robbed of something that you would like to cherish a for a long time to come.
I think you have written very beautifully about wanting to consult with the Church before taking photographs.
Brande,
You're welcome :-)
j x
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Thankyou so much for your help, really appreciate it. You have put my mind at ease!