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Hi Rob
This is tricky because you do need a qualifying link - and yours is at your mum's church. So there are a couple of options
1. To ask your mum's Vicar if it would be possible for another minister to officiate at the wedding in his church.
2. The Fifteen day rule. If you go and live in the neighbouring parish for fifteen days you can ask for a licence to marry there. That licence only lasts 3 months so you'd need to do this next year within 3 months of your wedding date. You would need to check that the next-door minister is willing to marry divorcees.
The only other option is to have a civil wedding and ask your mum's Vicar for a blessing service - Prayers after a Civil wedding.
Hope you can sort out something to make you happy. Do make sure he knows the circumstances of the divorces and how long you have been committed to each other.
Hope this makes sense. Come back to me if you need clarity
Kind regards
Jan
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Hi Tracy Jane
Yes it is perfectly possible to have a blessing in church after a Civil wedding and the Church of England has a service already written for this purpose. It is usually your own Vicar who conducts the service in your local church.
However, this is not a legal ceremony, so there are no hard and fast rules so why not ask the Vicar of the church near the hotel and see what happens. He or she may well be able to accommodate you if you don't already have a relationship with your own parish church.
It's worth asking
Have a great day
warm regards
Jan
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Hi Debbie
Yes one person can go to the surrogate or diocesan registry and confirm details on oath. Make sure you know what kind of licece you are requesting as you've mentioned both Common and Special licences, which are different.
A licence only lasts three months so make sure the traveller is back before it expires.
Hope this helps
kind regards
Jan
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Hi Debbie
You are quite right - it is legally possible to get married in an Anglican Church after divorce and I'm so sorry that you were given wrong information by the Vicar.
It is his prerogative not to officiate at your Wedding but there are lots of Ministers who will - especially as you didn't cause the divorce.
Since the new Marriage Measure became law 6 months ago you have much more choice about where to marry, so why not approach another church where you have a link?
I'm sure you'll find the right place where you can marry AND be blessed in the process!
Kind regards
Jan x
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Hi Helena
How lovely that your wedding has made you start thinking about your faith. I can assure you that churches absolutely LOVE to welcome in young couples. You are a sign of new life and there is absolutely no need to feel shy. They'll be delighted.
Why not tap your postcode into www.achurchnearyou.com
That will let you know your nearest church and you'll be able to look it up beforehand. Failing that you could drive past and take details off the noticeboard. Emailing or Ringing the Vicar beforehand might ease nerves. Often they have a welcome team at the door anyway or they could arrange for someone to look out for you, sit with you and show you the ropes.
Church congregations are an eclectic mix of ordinary people and you'll soon make friends and feel at home.
Be aware that there are different styles of services and one church might be very traditional with candles and an Organ and robed choir - the one next door might have a rock band and a more informal approach. Again it's up to you to find somewhere you feel comfortable with. Personally I think it's the welcome that matters. God is everywhere :-)
Come back to me if you need to chat more
warmest
Jan x
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Hi Jem
The only way you can get married in a church outside of your area is to become a parishioner - unless you already have a historical link with the church as described in the new Marriage Measure (see other posts for details).
Why not give it a try on Sunday - you might even enjoy it!
Kind regards
Jan
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Dear Jan,
We finally had our meeting with the vicar and he said it was absolutely fine, he saw no objection to it but he didn't make any referrence to whether he had to perform the wedding under the new Marriage Measure so it may have just been his decision. Thanks for your help.
Dave Smith
Hi Carolynne
If you have no links with the church then the only way to do this is to move into the area for 15 days, having notified the local clergy in advance.
However, your father-in-law's residency in Watermillock is a qualifying link for you to marry THERE as long as he has lived there for 6 months or more.
You can then apply for a Common Licence so get in touch with dad's local Vicar to take this option forward.
Hope this helps
Kind regards
Jan
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Hi Claire-Louise
You will need a Common Licence. Chat to your Vicar and he or she will put you in touch with someone who is authorised to sort this out for you
Warm regards
Jan
Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk
Hi Debbie
A common licence is needed if a couple want to get married in a church that is not in the parish where they live, or if one of them is a foreign national.
There may be other reasons to apply - speed for example - but that's the basic info.
Hope that helps
Jan x
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Jan Harney (Rev'd)
http://www.asineden.co.uk